{"id":1107,"date":"2025-03-20T12:55:51","date_gmt":"2025-03-20T12:55:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/?p=1107"},"modified":"2025-03-20T12:55:52","modified_gmt":"2025-03-20T12:55:52","slug":"memory-vs-media-are-we-remembering-the-moment-or-just-the-social-post","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/memory-vs-media-are-we-remembering-the-moment-or-just-the-social-post\/","title":{"rendered":"Memory vs media: are we remembering the moment or just the social post?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The way we showcase our experiences online can shape and distort our memories, blurring the line between reality and perception<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Memory isn\u2019t a perfect playback of the past. It\u2019s more like a glitchy, over-edited highlight reel. Every time we remember something, we\u2019re not just replaying it but rewriting it. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/books\/NBK234153\/\">Neuroscientists<\/a> say recalling a memory strengthens its neural pathways but also distorts it. So, that thing you swear happened exactly as you remember? Yeah\u2026 probably not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, throw social media into the mix. Seeing an old Instagram post can solidify some details while completely erasing others. Ever scrolled through a five-year-old photo and thought, &#8220;Wow, I remember that day so clearly&#8221;? Meanwhile, last week\u2019s events are already slipping through the cracks. That\u2019s because social media isn\u2019t just documenting our memories. It\u2019s shaping them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1149\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-770x578.jpg 770w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-293x220.jpg 293w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1400x1050.jpg 1400w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" src=\"http:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1149\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-770x578.jpg 770w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-293x220.jpg 293w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255-1400x1050.jpg 1400w, https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/31\/2025\/03\/IMG_2255.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">How good your memories are shouldn&#8217;t depend on how many likes your Instagram post got | Image: Jade Burrell<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>The digital filter<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s this weird tension between actual experiences and the versions we post online. Have you ever had a moment where you didn\u2019t take a photo and thought, &#8220;Did that even happen?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/gb\/blog\/talking-apes\/202003\/the-psychology-nostalgia\">David Ludden<\/a> at Georgia Gwinnett College in the US points out that social media takes it even further \u2013 every time you see someone else\u2019s version of an event, your own memory of it shifts. So even the things we <em>think<\/em> we remember might be an algorithm-tweaked remix of reality. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The &#8216;Mandela effect&#8217; is a similar distortion of reality, where masses of people share the same false memory \u2013 like thinking Nelson Mandela died in prison (he didn\u2019t) or that the Monopoly guy wears a monocle (he doesn\u2019t). Social media fuels these memory glitches, spreading and reinforcing false narratives at lightning speed. Ludden, who wrote about the Mandela effect in Psychology Today, explains that viral content and repetition can trick our brains into storing fiction as fact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Selective editing<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When you post about a trip or a night out, are you showing the whole, messy reality or just the carefully curated best bits? No judgement. We all do it. But the problem is, when we look back, we\u2019re not remembering the <em>actual<\/em> experience. We\u2019re remembering the filtered version we put out for others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And some people are rejecting that false reality. Hannah Rollason is just one of many ditching social media. The 30-year-old mum of two decided to step back from sharing her life online four years ago. \u201cLast year, I didn\u2019t even post for my kids\u2019 birthdays,\u201d she says. \u201cIt was a conscious choice to stop altogether.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Some of the best memories are the ones we keep to ourselves<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Without the pressure of likes and comments, she lives in the moment instead of performing for social media. Now, she journals more, shares photos privately, and just enjoys things for what they are.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m way more present now,\u201d she says. \u201cI don\u2019t stop mid-moment to check my phone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hannah has found that stepping away from social media doesn\u2019t mean losing memories. It just means experiencing them differently. The truth is, she said, we don\u2019t need a digital trail of every moment to remember it. Some of the best memories are the ones we keep to ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Social media lets us revisit happy moments but also distorts them, edits them and even replaces them. So, while there\u2019s nothing wrong with uploading a few photos to your feed, it\u2019s worth remembering that the most vivid memories aren&#8217;t always the ones captured for content.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The way we showcase our experiences online can shape and distort our memories blurring the line between reality and perception<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1190,"featured_media":1151,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[97,98,54,86],"coauthors":[84],"class_list":["post-1107","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-breakdown","tag-memory","tag-psychology","tag-social-media","tag-tiktok"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1107","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1190"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1107"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1107\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1154,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1107\/revisions\/1154"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1151"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1107"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1107"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1107"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cardiffjournalism.co.uk\/ditch\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=1107"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}